This post has nothing to do with how you dress or how you present yourself, but it’s about how you’re influenced by the people around you.  When you’re trying new stuff out, a different style or a new cool piece of clothing, how do others perceive that change?

Do You Take Insults Personally?

It’s hard not to, especially if it comes from your friends or someone with authority.  If you do this the biggest problem you’ll have is that you’ll second guess what you’re doing.  If you’re not sure what you’re doing works or is “you”, the second someone insults you it will reinforce that.  This is where most guys stop any change they made and revert back to where they were.

What people don’t tell you when they insult you is their (the insulter’s) fear of change.  Half the time people insult you because they are shallow.  The other half the time, friends and others insult you because they don’t want you to change, even if it’s for the better.

Do You Take Compliments Personally?

Anybody who gets compliments on what they wear will make them feel good.  It’s rare when that’s not the case especially if it comes from the opposite sex or someone with authority.  But here’s the problem, if you base your self confidence or image of yourself solely on the compliments you receive you are setting yourself up for failure.  

Let’s say you try something new, you go out to the bar and you receive great feedback on how great you look.  Now later that night, a girl comes up to you and says you look like a poser idiot, how do you take it?  Do you assume it’s true and deduct that previous compliments were wrong?  Do you assume it’s false because of all the compliments prior were great.  Or do you weigh the percentage of good compliments vs the percentage of bad compliments? 

Here’s the problem, all of these situations have the same ramifications.  Your image or sense of self is being dictated by what people say about you. 

Warning: Insults And Compliments Are Both Bad

Person A insults you, Person B compliments you.  So who’s justified and who’s not?  How can you tell contrusctive criticsm against regular criticism?  Here’s the deal, both are valuable and both are worthless.  It all depends how you use the information.  It’s all about how you take it.  In both you never want to take it personally and here’s why.  

The Secret To Being Humble

Why do you want to be humble?  Well, humility goes hand in hand with confidence and, don’t tell anyone, it’s the quickest way to gain confidence.  Why is that?  Because humility reinforces your sense of self and solidifies it in your mind.  You become a person who isn’t subject to the winds of change from compliments and insults.  So here’s what you need to say when someone compliments you:  “Thanks”.  And if someone insults you simply change that up a little and say “Thanks”.  It’s really that simple.  You can use the information and critique that people give, but this information should NEVER falter your own perception of yourself.  If you avoid this key mistake, you’ll be on the path to great confidence and style.

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